I was asked recently why Bo and I have the W Magazine with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie on the cover framed and hanging in a place of prominence in our home. I was able to boil my almost 20 year obsession of Angelina Jolie down to one single sentence – Angelina Jolie is my God figure. She is the icon I pray to, that guides me, inspires me, tantalizes me, is everything a woman can be. Angelina Jolie is the Goddess figure who has seamlessly transitioned from Maiden to Mother and will continue this transition into Crone one day far from now. She was introduced to me in the late 90’s when I first saw Hackers and found out she was a bisexual lady who had dated the beautiful Jenny Shimizu. She was pure, unabashed sensuality, burning brighter than any of the new celestial bodies around her. Her bouts of depression, her desperate need to feel everything intensely and purely, her acting out, all of this was validation of the emotions I had churning inside my own self in my late teens and early 20’s. Watching her find herself through the smile on the face of the beautiful little boy who was her whole world showed me that even the emotionally broken can be healed. When she fell in love with Brad Pitt, however, she became not only a superstar but a cultural icon that’s going to live on long after she’s gone. One of the world’s most beautiful women with one of the world’s most beautiful men was like a dream too perfect to be real, and still, 10 yrs later, still feels so dreamlike.
The fact that her and Brad Pitt were having filthy, insanely beautiful sex with each other was enough to short out my brain with the hotness of it all. When they combined their perfect genes to make a baby, the entire world watched in awe. The two of them could have easily been lulled into a rich-and-famous cocoon with their babies and their beauty and their money and their all access pass to everything the rich-and-famous could ever do. They didn’t choose this life though. Instead they took the world-wide gaze that was constantly, intensely on them and focused it on those who suffer, who have no voice, who no one sees. They made helping those in need their main mission in their combined life, and have over the past decade raised (and personally donated) millions of dollars to people who have been abused and marginalized. Her brave act of having a preventive double mastectomy has increased the genetic scanning for breast cancer 90 percent. This is a couple, a family, that has saved lives, refocused our celebrity obsessed culture onto things that need attention, while also being a wonderful example of how to raise a family, celebrating differences, letting their children be who they want, keeping them grounded by not spoiling them, and showing that the bond of family is the strongest bond that could save us all.
Of course, the wedding of the Universal Mother and Her Sun King was in a sacred space, in the brightly white Heavens in which they live, surrounded by their children, taking the traditional rigidity of the wedding ceremony and making it into an intimate gathering of their family, each child contributing in their own special way. The uniqueness with which Angelina Jolie has done all things in her life came through again on this day, giving the world a wedding that is as iconic as the couple themselves. Their gift to us is themselves, veiled in love and family, as an inspiration for how we can all live if we open ourselves up to one another.
Special thanks to JoliePittStop for the scans